In this digital day and age, talking to people can be difficult. Everyone’s got their nose buried in a smartphone or a tablet, and they’re also usually wearing headphones which adds another barrier to face-to-face communication. If you’re a lonely guy who thinks he’s going to find his next soulmate in the hostile, antisocial woman trying to mind her business while she gets from point A to point B, I’m sure you’re very frustrated at this point. You just really want to let that cute girl sitting across from you on the bus how gorgeous she is (like she doesn’t already know), or your day just can’t go on if you don’t let the perfect 10 walking down the street know exactly what you’d do to her body if you got your way. (And of course, they’re all fat, classless bitches if they don’t graciously accept your obviously well-intended compliments.)
Anyway, as a woman myself, one who often goes out into public spaces sporting headphones, large sunglasses, a smartphone to bury my face in, or sometimes all of the above, I can offer some inside perspective on this topic. Cheat codes from the horse’s mouth itself. How do you approach a woman who is wearing headphones? Well, it’s quite simple, actually, and I can condense it down into one easy step for you:
- You DON’T.
Seriously folks? This shouldn’t even be up for debate. If we have headphones in, it’s because we don’t want to talk to you. At all. We’re only out in public because we have to be, so please don’t make it worse for us than it has to be. Wait until you see us at a bar, coffee shop, or other venue where socializing is encouraged. On the street, or worse, on public transportation when we’re stuck in a box with you and can’t get away? Leave us alone. At best, you’ll be forever labelled “that creep” in our minds.
I know I don’t speak for all women, but across all of my social media accounts, I’ve only seen women spewing vitriol at the idea that men should ignore their “don’t talk to me” signs and go ahead and bother them anyway. Not one woman was in favor of being bothered while she’s wearing headphones. Not a single one.
Look, if you’re that hungry for interaction, join a dating site or something. Don’t harass women on the street.